What is Emotional Sobriety?

"If we examine every disturbance we have, great or small, we will find at the root of it some unhealthy dependence and its consequent demand. Let us, with God's help, continually surrender these hobbling demands. Then we can be set free to live and love: we may then be able to gain emotional sobriety. " [...]

What Kind of Person Will I Be if I Get Sober?

"I feel like I've lost my best friend," I said to my counselor after being in a treatment center for a couple of days. "Well, in a weird and somewhat unhealthy way, you have," she said. I wasn't talking about a person. I was talking about the OxyContin. I was talking about my Captain Morgan. [...]

What Does it Take for an Addict to Finally Hit Bottom?

It was about 5am one morning in 2007. I had been binge drinking and topping that off with various pharmaceuticals for the past 48 hours. My supply of pills was gone, and the boos were starting to wear off. Those God-awful DTs had begun. As I lie on the floor sweating, the only thing I […]

10 Things I Learned During My First Year of Sobriety

The first year of sobriety is a physical, emotional, and spiritual roller coaster. When I got sober in 2010, I knew that I was in for a ride. There were plenty of ups and downs, laughs and tears - but man, there is just nothing like finally picking up your one-year medallion! Here are 10 [...]

What “Adulting” Really Means

I am a little behind on my writing. The last couple of weeks have kind of been a whirlwind, and I have not had a lot of time to do anything except be on the go. I have been thinking all day about what this post should be about. I thought about writing something relating [...]

The Freedom To Be Me

I am not the most unique nor the most boring person. I am not the most beautiful, but definitely not ugly either. I did not come from an impoverished family but did not come from riches. My life has not been something from a Hollywood movie, but I can assure you it has not been [...]

The Trouble With Fear

When I was beginning my journey in sobriety, a counselor had me make a list of all of my fears (us twelve-steppers know this as a part of the fourth step). These weren't tangible things like spiders or snakes, but rather the aspects of life that made you want to run the other way. For [...]