The Five “To Do’s” in Early Sobriety

Early sobriety. If your story is anything like mine, it was anything but easy. The emotional roller coaster, combined with plowing through the massive pile of wreckage that I had created, made my first year extremely challenging. Based on my personal experience, and what I have learned from others, there are five things that can [...]

What is Emotional Sobriety?

"If we examine every disturbance we have, great or small, we will find at the root of it some unhealthy dependence and its consequent demand. Let us, with God's help, continually surrender these hobbling demands. Then we can be set free to live and love: we may then be able to gain emotional sobriety. " [...]

The Willingness to Stay Sober

Willingness. It's defined by the Oxford Dictionary as,"the quality or state of being prepared or ready to do something." There are plenty of things that I can honestly say I will be pretty much always be willing to do. Am I willing to go to the beach? Yup. Willing to take a nap? Always. Willing [...]

Twelve Steps Under Attack

I didn't really start coming "out" about my life of recovery until the last year or so (which was at almost seven years sober). It's not that I was purposely trying to hide anything, but I guess I wanted to get some time under my belt and allow people to make their mind up about [...]

The Day I Realized the Obsession to Drink and Drug Was Gone

I have been asked two questions a lot lately, so I thought I would take some time to answer them. The questions are: How long did it take before you stopped wanting to drink/use? What did you do to make that happen? Well, here's my answer. I don't remember exactly how long I had been [...]

Is Society More Accepting of a Drinking Problem than a Drug Problem?

I am ten and a half years sober from a drinking problem and seven and a half years sober from an opioid problem. Since the last time that I placed any mood-altering substances into my body was December 7th of 2010, that is the date that I count myself as first getting clean and sober. [...]

What Kind of Person Will I Be if I Get Sober?

"I feel like I've lost my best friend," I said to my counselor after being in a treatment center for a couple of days. "Well, in a weird and somewhat unhealthy way, you have," she said. I wasn't talking about a person. I was talking about the OxyContin. I was talking about my Captain Morgan. [...]