The Five “To Do’s” in Early Sobriety

Early sobriety. If your story is anything like mine, it was anything but easy. The emotional roller coaster, combined with plowing through the massive pile of wreckage that I had created, made my first year extremely challenging. Based on my personal experience, and what I have learned from others, there are five things that can [...]

What is Emotional Sobriety?

"If we examine every disturbance we have, great or small, we will find at the root of it some unhealthy dependence and its consequent demand. Let us, with God's help, continually surrender these hobbling demands. Then we can be set free to live and love: we may then be able to gain emotional sobriety. " [...]

Relationships in Sobriety

When we enter our journey into sobriety, all of us have a different relationship status. Some of us might be married, some in a committed relationship, and some of us might be single. No matter what your relationship status is when you decide to get sober, romantic relationships can be complicated. I get asked all [...]

Depression and Suicide in Sobriety

I've been putting off writing this blog for a while because as much as it's something that needs to be talked about, it's just uncomfortable. But you know what? It doesn't need to be. And the only way that we can help people is by being honest about what's really going on in parts of [...]

The Willingness to Stay Sober

Willingness. It's defined by the Oxford Dictionary as,"the quality or state of being prepared or ready to do something." There are plenty of things that I can honestly say I will be pretty much always be willing to do. Am I willing to go to the beach? Yup. Willing to take a nap? Always. Willing [...]

Twelve Steps Under Attack

I didn't really start coming "out" about my life of recovery until the last year or so (which was at almost seven years sober). It's not that I was purposely trying to hide anything, but I guess I wanted to get some time under my belt and allow people to make their mind up about [...]

What Kind of Person Will I Be if I Get Sober?

"I feel like I've lost my best friend," I said to my counselor after being in a treatment center for a couple of days. "Well, in a weird and somewhat unhealthy way, you have," she said. I wasn't talking about a person. I was talking about the OxyContin. I was talking about my Captain Morgan. [...]

What Does it Take for an Addict to Finally Hit Bottom?

It was about 5am one morning in 2007. I had been binge drinking and topping that off with various pharmaceuticals for the past 48 hours. My supply of pills was gone, and the boos were starting to wear off. Those God-awful DTs had begun. As I lie on the floor sweating, the only thing I […]