Twelve Steps Under Attack

I didn't really start coming "out" about my life of recovery until the last year or so (which was at almost seven years sober). It's not that I was purposely trying to hide anything, but I guess I wanted to get some time under my belt and allow people to make their mind up about [...]

The Day I Realized the Obsession to Drink and Drug Was Gone

I have been asked two questions a lot lately, so I thought I would take some time to answer them. The questions are: How long did it take before you stopped wanting to drink/use? What did you do to make that happen? Well, here's my answer. I don't remember exactly how long I had been [...]

What Kind of Person Will I Be if I Get Sober?

"I feel like I've lost my best friend," I said to my counselor after being in a treatment center for a couple of days. "Well, in a weird and somewhat unhealthy way, you have," she said. I wasn't talking about a person. I was talking about the OxyContin. I was talking about my Captain Morgan. [...]

Infertility in Sobriety

I've spoken in the past about the "Big Duh" when it comes to asking yourself why your life is in constant turmoil. For me, the "Big Duh" was my alcoholism. Even in the midst of all of the numbing, boozing, and pills, I could see that my life would become tremendously more manageable if I [...]

Addiction is Just a Symptom

I spent a large portion of my life feeling like something was missing. It was like I was literally a walking puzzle with all but one piece. No matter what I did, I never felt complete. In the beginning, you think it must be that something specific is missing. Something tangible. If I just find [...]